Tears
rolled down from Hina's eyes. The signs of anxiety, depression and disturbance
could clearly be read on her face. She was staring at the ground while her
cheeks grew red .She was trying to compose herself and coming out of the situation.
It happened with her when her teacher asked, "What does your father
do?" why did she react like that? Only close friend of Hina knew that
separation had taken place between her parents and she is living with her
mother.
Marriage
brings closer, not only two persons but also it is a union of two families.
Therefore, such a delicate relationship needs more care and a sense of
responsibility. When two people are tied together through the knot of marriage,
each one of them has mutual dreams now onwards. If both of them pamper their
own longings and establish rooted expectation from the other. At the same time,
they forget their partner, this very reason becomes the bone of contention
between the two and in the near future, it transforms in to a big hurdle
between them. The authoritative behavior of man and woman when they try to
fulfil their own desires, particularly by ignoring the other one, makes their
home a hell.
The
bride comes to the in-laws and finds a very different atmosphere and circumstances
than she experienced when she was with her parents. It takes time to understand
the environment, moods, eating habits, ways to entertain guests and close
friends of her new relatives. The bride must keep a vigilant eye around to
grasp fully the air of her in-laws. Majority of the girls try their best to mix
up with other family members. However, sometimes, misunderstandings develop so
hastily that a happy home changes in to a wilderness. Ultimately, the strong
relationship of husband and wife staggers and results in a separation.
Suspicion
is also a hidden enemy of relationships, I must say a poison that kills matrimonial
bliss at the spot the. From either husband or wife, it eliminates mutual love
of a happy couple. It does not end even in dire consequences but also gives a
serious setback to the health of both the individuals. They become an easy
prey to fatal diseases.
Divorce
rate has evidently increased throughout the world, particularly in the
sub-continent, where it used to be very low in the past, but now it is surprisingly
increasing further with every passing day. The trend of love marriages among
the new generation is taking roots quickly. It is a common observation that
lovers of the near past are at daggers drawn at present. The couples that get
married, are found offending their near and dear ones, and are unable to enjoy
the real bliss of life and at last break the bonds themselves.
Mismatch
in arranged marriages is another factor that leads to divorce. Sometimes elders
ignore the basic needs of their children only to strengthen their own relations
and friendship. The difference of age, education, temperament and aptitude are
not given any importance. Social status is also a reason that can never be ignored.
People belong to different social strata are unable to develop an ideal
relationship. The soul objective of matrimonial life, which is love, sympathy,
comfort and peace in life, is found nowhere.
The
parents that do not prepare their children to meet the heavy responsibilities
of life are also guilty of the miserable married lives of their offsprings. They
are experienced people and must play their effective role before and after the marriage.
Many couples could avoid sufferings and separation if parents, particularly mothers,
play their honest role.
How
divorce affects the partners? It is observed that women suffer more than men
do. In this male dominating society, men are free to do whatever they like.
If separation occurs, they often remarry and try to continue the flow of life smoothly.
However, in case of women, it proves a stigma to their life. They lose all
their confidence and self-respect. Not everybody who meets them tries to
understand the fact rather blindly suspects that it was her fault that ended in
divorce. In the Asian society of ours, women are not so functional in practical
life, though the concept is gradually changing. Some of them are highly educated and are earning
good. In this situation, conditions turn highly tense. The parents’ control on domestic
affairs proves weaker when their sons are married and have their own children
.The divorced girl in that situation becomes a victim of hot and teasing
remarks from their sister -in -laws. The life that is actually a supreme gift
of God becomes a heavy load while peace and calm of the house take their way
out.
The
situation further worsens if the woman has young children with her after
divorce. Her life proves even more difficult mainly due to financial problems. If
they are well educated, they can control the situation to some extent. Otherwise,
they are compelled to do petty jobs like housemaids in the homes of wealthy people.
There too, they are often mistreated and misbehaved. They are unable to educate
their children due to lack of financial resources. If they have enough sources
to send their children to schools and colleges, their children face the
situation like the one mentioned above. They lack confidence and remain behind
their classmates in school studies. Inwardly, they feel insecure; the fear becomes
deep rooted in them. Ultimately, they are transformed into confused
personalities.
Divorce
is not only a fruit of sufferings and miseries in all conditions. There are
certain cases when people get their lost paradise after separation and turn
more contented and happy than before. It is not necessary to lead a painful
life with a partner you do not like. May be your separation proves a blessing
in disguise .It is also a divine law, if you make it impossible to keep pace
with your spouse then break the bond and become independent.
Whatsoever
the opinion of people be, it is a concrete fact that a marriage is a risk you
cannot predict about its goodness or badness. The only thing to consider is
that petty disputes are everywhere; but everything should be dealt with patience,
tolerance and positive thinking on both sides. Keep your focus on bright aspect
of life leaving aside the negative aspects. Seek good qualities of your spouse
and close the eyes on their shortcomings, as no one is perfect in this world.
Keep a friendly atmosphere leaving hot and burning affairs away, forgive trivial
things and show an open heart towards the other. This is a golden rule to keep
your home a sweet home.
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